Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Yes, I am excited!

Last night as I was checking out at Walgreens, the cashier sat and stared at me for a couple of seconds and then said (in a very judgmental and not very nice way), "and how old is your baby?" (I was holding Hailey in my arms.) I told her that she was a year old (I should have told her that she was 15 months). She then said, "well....they are going to be pretty close together, don't you think??" At this point, I was fighting back every urge in my body to not just leave my groceries and walk out of the store. But, I took a deep breath and remembered the advice that my friend told me the other day. I then put a smile on my face and said, "Yes they will, and I am very excited." She looked at me very confused and said, "You're excited?" I then reassured her that I was and decided to totally shock her by telling her that in less than 2 months I will have 4 little girls running around and how much fun it will be. She softened up a little and I guess decided that if I was excited about it then it was okay.

I cannot even tell you the kind of looks that I get from people as I walk in somewhere with three girls, one who is very much still a baby (and is small for her age anyways), and a very obvious pregnant belly. It is not like I live in Utah where big families are the norm, I live in a part of the country where a family with three kids is considered a big family. I am really glad that I cannot hear what people are thinking, but sometimes it is as if I can just by the expression on their face. Does it bother me? Somedays. Somedays I look at myself in the mirror with the same expression. But most of the time, I just feel grateful and happy. Years from now when the crazy stage of two little ones close together finally settle down and I have four beautiful girls who will mean everything to me and who will give me beautiful grandchildren, it will all be worth it.

It is all worth it and yes, Mrs. Cashier at Walgreens, I really am excited (and nervous and scared out of my mind) :)

5 comments:

Chaos At Its Best said...

Yeah I get people who say are you due??? and I'm not even pregnant..... Sorry that happened but you handled it Great.... Maybe that cashier will think twice....

Melanie Anne said...

Good for you Melissa!! You are such an amazing woman and MOther--how blessed your children are to come to you! Be proud of that beautiful protruding belly and baby on the hip:) I well remember those days for me too. Bridger was so small for his age and just one when i was hugely pregnant too. Keep your head high--you are doing the most important and noble work on earth!! xoxoxo

Carrie said...

I am so excited for you too!! People can be really dumb sometimes. I know that is mean, but I could write a book about all the dumb things people say after working at Bi-Lo-myself included in the saying of dumb things on occasion...But REALLY? Mrs. Walgreen's has a problem...I am sorry she was so dumb, but you handled it amazingly!!! I would so wanted to say, in a very sarcastic tone: "OH MY GOODNESS!!! You are so right! Thanks for telling me because I never even realized that they would be so close together in age." But that would be mean and I really wouldn't say it...that is just what I would be thinking in my head. Working with the public can at times make you cynical and I am so there right now (can't wait for June 8th to be done!)..but it would be fun to see what their expression would be. But your way is much more Christlike and the best way to handle the situation. Wow, I can't believe I am going to actually leave this comment...Don't judge me Melissa, okay? :)...I need a vacation...

Rebecca said...

I have been there. You did great!

And about seeing you, how about Sunday? Wanna come over? Or wanna invite us over? Let me know!! I would love to go to the beach for the weekend but Randy is doing a mini triathalon so we can't. Have fun!!! Can't wait to see you! Call us! 910.308.9459(me) or 910.308.5432(him)

Mary said...

When we first moved to PA, I had four kids under 5. As you can testify about I got lots of look/comments too, but I was excited too. And guess what everyday I am happier still with the decisions that brought me to this point. Life just keeps getting better and so now when people ask if two of the boys are twins I just smile and so "No".

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