Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Brain Declutter

My friend, Carrie, does "brain declutters" on her blog and today I decided that I needed to do one as well. So here are all of the random things going on in my brain today....

*So I still haven't made my first doctor's appointment and yesterday as I was talking with a friend, I admitted to the real reason why I haven't called yet. I am totally embarrassed. I'm afraid that he is going to say, "Weren't you just here having your last baby?" And I'll say "Oh yes, she's right here. Would you mind holding her while I strip down and get in my favorite paper robe?" Or maybe he'll say, "Do you know what birth control is?" And I'll say, "Yes, but remember there is still that tiny chance?" Maybe he won't even remember me and it won't even be a big deal. Or maybe, just maybe, he will be happy to see me because I am keeping him in business, right?! I know what you are thinking, "just make your appointment!" I know, I know. I should just pick up the phone right now, but...what's the big hurry anyway? I'm only 13 weeks along!!!

*School stresses me out!!! I thought that the day that I got my college diploma was the day that all of my school stress was over. I couldn't have been more wrong!! Second grade is making my hair go gray. On Katelund's last report card she was so excited that she made the honor roll once again. It took everything in me to be excited with her because all that I could see were the B's staring back at me. She got a 96, 93, 91, and 86. Well apparently, in Tennessee they like to use the college grading scale in elementary school and make an A be 93-100. Which makes her 91 a B!!! SERIOUSLY!!!! THIS MAKES ME ABSOLUTELY CRAZY!!!! Now, I know I should be happy for her because she has worked really hard and her reading has drastically improved this year, but still..... two B's?! All I can hear in the back of my head is my dad saying, "You got another B?" You see, in my dad's opinion B is failing. Well all through high school, I was an AB student but when I went to college I was determined to change that. I worked harder than I've ever worked in my life and by the end of my 4th year in college, I had a cumulative GPA of 3.8. Cory still remembers the day that I came home crying like crazy after taking a test in the testing center because I had gotten a 93. Grades became a really big deal to me and I think I was a little obsessed. Well, I don't want grades to control me the way they used to because grades are NOT the most important thing!! So what is wrong with me??? I have got to get over this!!!! Because as smart as Katelund is, she has a very distracted and creative mind. She has some AMAZING gifts and abilities but she is just not the sit in your desk and quietly do your work all day kind of girl. I love who she is and I just need help her to be her best self, not somebody who I think she should be. Does anyone else have this problem?

*How am I ever going to keep up with 6 people's laundry? I am barely surviving 5 people's worth right now!!!!

*The baby bump/bulge/makes everything fit tight stage is here. Stefani, Cory's youngest sister who is due the same week that I am with her first baby, has not gained a pound. Good for her right?! As for myself.....come on, it's my 5th pregnancy!! All though I did do pretty awesome on the P90X cardio workout the other day with Cory. At least I'm working out this pregnancy. But not obsessively like I did with Katelund. I only gained 19 pounds with her. (is it just me or does it seem like I am using the word obsessed a lot? Maybe I really do have a problem!)

*Do you have an extra couple of minutes (probably not if you have made it this far in this never-ending post)? Well if you do, you HAVE to read this post by my friend Melanie. It has changed my life...SERIOUSLY!!! I am determined to be better at dinners. My problem is that I always wait until crazy time (when Hailey wants attention and the girls are doing homework/fighting/begging for attention and food) to make dinner. Which means that on some nights it is not even ready until 7!! I am going to change!! And she gives some great ideas on how to. THANKS MELANIE!!!!

[ETA.....I just got off the phone from making my first appointment for next week. What made me decide to actually pick up the phone? My sister-in-law had her appointment today and she texted me a picture of her ultrasound. It got me all excited and I called my doctor right away.]

9 comments:

Melissa said...

I am so glad there is someone else out there like me. :) I was so nervous to go to the doctor with Jackson (Morgan was only 6 months!) But I am sure that we will be happy to see that you- of all people are expecting again- especially when he sees how much love & attention you give your kids & don't you want to hear that cute little heartbeat? I love what you wrote about Katelund! That is how I feel with Morgan. The other day when I went for PTC the teacher told me how well Morgan was doing. I felt happy for Morgan- that she is doing so well, but also wanted the teacher to say, "Melissa- you are doing wonderful with Morgan- she is so lucky to have a Mom like you to help her read & spell- You are amazing!" :) But- that didn't happen- I'm just happy Morgan LISTENS to her teacher & does her work & that she never gets in trouble! You are wonderful! I love reading your blog & knowing that you are far away, but that we both Mom's and trying to do the best for our families. Sorry this comment is so long :)
Have a good day! love ya

Beadles said...

Congrats on another little Mann on the way. I guess I missed the previous post when you told everyone the news. I hope you are healthy and happy during the entire pregnancy.

Staceroo said...

Melissa, I have/had the same problem with schoolwork and grades. I was a straight A student and to this day, whenever I am stressed about ANYTHING, I will have "school nightmares". However, I didn't want to try to make my kids into little me's and have all these unrealistic expectations on them. Rather, they need to develop their own talents. I still have high expectations of them in school, but I tell them that they don't need to be perfect, they just need to always do their best. So if their best is a B, so be it. It is hard for me to let go still, especially when they bring their tests home; I really have to focus on praising them for how well they did, instead of just focusing on the one or two they got wrong. But it has taught me a lot about how Heavenly Father sees us too. He is not currently demanding perfection, but He does want us to always give our best.

Oh, and as far as laundry goes, here are a couple of things that have worked for me: (1) Teach your older two daughters how to fold their own laundry to cut down on that side of things. (2) Wash yours and Cory's clothes together, and then the girl's clothes together. (I usually end up doing four loads - Chris and my darks and whites, and the girls darks and whites.) It really helps make the folding go faster when all the clothes in a load go toward the same couple of people.

Oh, and I hope this comment isn't sounding like I'm wise and all knowing, because I am anything but! I usually come onto your blog to get ideas on how to be a better mother!

Austyn said...

i am laughing so hard because i went through the EXACT same thing when i got pregnant the 2nd time! and of course every appointment they talk about your previous pregnancy and when that was, and then they always glance up and say something like "oh!" and then i would have to hurry andmake some sort of comment like yeah, they will be pretty close". why did i even let that bother me? it's exciting! who cares!?
haha

Kim said...

Congrats Melissa! Love you guys!!

Mary said...

So funny I just posted about the same thing on my blog sort of. And I have been thinking about it since Sunday but just haven't gotten to it.

Sherrie said...

Here's a thought; perhaps it would help to ease your conscience if you thought about someone who was having triplets. "...and when did you have your last baby? Three minutes ago????!!!" Or better yet, consider the Lord's time when factoring in that question, then we all would say three minutes ago:) The main thing I feel bad about is not being able to be there to hold Hailey, why should the nurses get all the fun?

Carrie said...

Doesn't if feel so good to declutter? Love this post. :)

Mandy said...

Okay, I'm totally with you and Stacy on the grades....B doesn't get letter grades until next year, but the lack of "above mastery" marks really got to me on her last report card. And when I see 9/10 on a reading test, I feel anxiety. Definitely trying not to let it show, though. And, glad you made that appt.....many doctors do that early ultrasound around 13 weeks. I'll check out the dinner blog when I get a chance...maybe in a couple of months?? :)

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