Friday, October 16, 2009

6 months

I have heard it said before that it usually takes about 6 months before you can call a place home. Moving from Asheville to here was really hard for me. I had to leave behind so many incredible friends that did so much for me during some of my most difficult days and that I love and cherish deeply. I still think of them all often...very often, but I knew that moving was the right thing. It was a move that we knew was coming eventually and I know that the Spirit had prepared me long before the actual job offer came. But....it was still not easy. It is never easy to leave behind a place that you love and people that have become like family. We have done it many, many times. Leaving Rexburg was very hard. I had to say goodbye to one of the closest friends I've ever had, Annie. Leaving Texas was hard because I knew that there was a chance that I may never live close to my parents and sister again. Moving from Fayetteville was also difficult because of so many people who made that ward one of the best ones we have ever lived in, and not to mention leaving behind Cory's parents. They were all hard moves but it was also pretty easy for me to adjust after about 6 months in a new place.

Tennessee has been the hardest place for me to adjust to. I'm not really sure why, but it has been. It has now been 6 months (actually 6 1/2) since we moved here, but I am not completely at home yet. It is not that the people aren't wonderful because they are. It is not that the city isn't great because it is (well, except for the insane amount of bugs and the fact that no place we will ever live will compare to the beauty and climate of Asheville). It must just be me. We are 8+ hours away from any family and we live in a ward where there are a lot of families that are related to one another. Also, all of my neighbors work all of the time. I need a good neighbor friend, life just isn't the same without one. I guess I just feel more alone here.

But, this week I have felt such a great amount of love and selfless services from some of my friends here. It has meant so much to me and made me realize that I need to get out and serve others more often. It is always in serving others, that our own loneliness and/or disappointments seem to disappear or become very unimportant. I am so extremely grateful for Cory's job and for the opportunity we had to come here. It has been a good experience for our little family because we have really grown closer together. I will still never forget all of the incredible friends from everywhere we've lived who have and will continue to touch my life, but I also know that it is now time for me to start feeling like I'm at home here. Maybe I just need to give it another 6 months. :)

4 comments:

Lindsey said...

Moving to a new area is always so hard. I know how it feels to live in a ward that has a lot of families that are related to each other. That is how our ward was in Waxahachie and I always felt like that I didn't belong because I wasn't a relative. You have an amazing ability to make friends with everyone though, so I am sure you will make great friendships there. Any ward that has you in it is a very lucky ward. Someday I WILL convince you to move back to Texas so we can be neighbors and live in the same ward again. :)

Mandy said...

I wish you had a good "neighbor friend", too. I hope you feel better in six months time. I've finally realized that I may never feel the same living here as I did living in NC because the people here will never change....not who they are, but they'll live here forever and new people will rarely move in. So, we won't get those new, exciting young families that add to our friendships. I miss that. Everyone here is related, and even though Brad has family there...I'm still the outsider. All of the women talk to Brad, but rarely to me. Oh, well. Those selfless services really make a difference, don't they? I love and miss ya!

Carrie said...

I know what you mean totally. We just moved and it is like coming home, but it is also the first move "away" with Jake in school and I miss his old school...I am sure I will love new one too, I just need to get in there and serve! By the way your stroller and baby clothes are at Kristen's house. :)

Destinee said...

Just so you know, Asheville is just not the same without you.
Hope it feels like home soon!

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